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Personal Anger Management technique
Many years ago I was traveling from Indiana to Ohio state on the interstate highway by myself. I have a habit and rule that when using the speed and cruise while speeding, that I will not press down the accelerator . When I am speeding it is only... or usually anywhere from three to 5 mph over the speed limit. So, on a highway where there's four lanes, two lanes going one way and two going the opposite, sometimes you have to get in the left-hand lane to pass a car that's going slower than you. Also, there are those times that soon after you pass a car in the left-hand lane, you don't want to back into the right hand lane right away because there will be another car in the left-hand lane to pass very soon. At the same time, there sometimes is a person behind you going much faster waiting to get around you. Some of those people are so much in a hurry that they try to swiftly turn in to the left-hand lane in order to pass you quickly. They have to pass you before the next slow car in the left lane comes up. Therefore, they will often take the real tiny time to swerve into the left lane, pass you and then swerve back into the right hand lane to pass the next car coming up in the left-hand lane.
Speed and cruise controls often don't remain at a certain speed. They operate within a range of speeds, let's say between 72 mph and 75. It varies with each car. When I was on the highway going from Indiana to Ohio State, a certain man in a truck thought they'd be sneaky in order to pass me while I was in the left-hand lane. He took the chance to swerve into the right hand lane, given the short time he had to do this, so that he could pass me and then swerve back into the left-hand lane.
At the time he passed me, my speed and cruise control was at the lower range of speeds. Therefore, it was just going into the cycle of increasing its speed to the high side of the range which would have been 75 mph. Therefore, right when he was passing, my car increased its speed without me touching it. Now, I don't really like it when people passed me on the right hand side. This is just not good driving etiquette in my mind. It is also not safe.
Anger Management For The WorkplaceAnger Management for the Workplace Without a doubt, many people find that the biggest area of stress in their life is the workplace. Many ..... Seeing as how I do not like to mess around with my gas pedal when I have my speed and cruise on, I also don't like the fiddle around with my brake pedal for the same reason. So when my car started to speed up, it managed this guy's speed which made it practically impossible for him to pass me. Well, this guy eventually realized he was not going to be able to pass because he did not have enough room. We eventually caught up with the slow car in the left lane that at one time was a good distance away. Therefore, this guy who wanted to pass me had to put his brake on in order to get back behind me once again. Out of the corner of my eye I could tell this guy was getting very angry with me.
Let me tell you, I'm not the biggest guy around. This guy he was definitely bigger than me and he had a truck where I had a subcompact car. Therefore, he could do almost anything to my car. I saw him out of the corner of my eye making gestures and frantically trying to get my attention. I really didn't know what to do. I have to admit that I was kind of worried. I was traveling somewhere were I didn't know anyone so I was definitely concerned.
From past experience I've learned how to defuse the situation like this. For some reason, if you don't pay attention to someone that's getting angry with you and also try to make him aware that you have no clue of what is going on, you can defuse the situation by acting dumb. Make it look like you had no idea that something actually happened. Try to look like an idiot. It's the only thing that came into my mind at the time and it definitely worked. This guy was doing all he could to make sure that I knew he was totally angry with me. He wanted satisfaction.
It was hard for him to get satisfaction out of the situation since he soon figured that I had no clue what was going on and likely very stupid of the situation. This came out to be one of the best things I could've done if I didn't wanna get hurt. If for example, I turned my head to him in order to let him see that I saw he was upset and then gave them the finger.... or made any offensive gesture or face towards him, it is conceivable that he would have knocked my car off the road or may be pulled out a gun. You really don't know. Of course, it is possible that those things would not have happened also.
However, it's not smart to take a chance if you don't want further problems to occur. Some people have the hardest time controlling their anger especially when they're driving. I really do know that because for me in the far past, that is also one of the hardest places to control my anger.
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